Thursday, July 29, 2010

Cute Kid Stuff

Ok. I'll try and keep these types of posts to a minimum, especially for those of you without children who don't appreciate hearing cute kid stories all that often...sort of like I am with dogs. I don't really think dogs are cute. Some puppies, maybe. But, overall, I don't like your dog and I really don't want to hear about the stories that include the adorable things he does.

But, back to the topic. One thing I've learned as a parent is to never say "never" about behavioral topics. You can say that you'll never let your child jump off a cliff, but don't say you'll never say the things your parents said. Because at some point in the future when your child pushes that button of yours just one more time and you are tired and annoyed and frustrated and wondering where he possibly learned this particular ridiculous behavior, you will say that dreaded phrase.

Now, my wonderful son is honestly one of the greatest joys of my life. And, luckily, at only 17 months, he still is so sweet and innocent that 99% of the time, that joy overshadows any irritation. However, that 1% can really get ya.

Yesterday, I had an exhausted little boy who was very much in need of a nap and a diaper change. Another thing I've learned about being a parent is that little boys very much enjoy playing with their nether regions while you try and change their diaper--normally, this really doesn't both me, but it can be a little unhygenic. So, as I'm trying to change his diaper, after wrestling him just to get his pants off, I end up loudly using the phrase, "Now, cut it out and get your binky out of your crotch!" One for the parenting book, for sure.

He's also into helping mommy with everything. Today, he used his own little broom and vacuum because the big ones were out and also sat on the counter putting vegetables into a bowl as I cut them. Of course, I did catch him tasting some and trying to put them back, but overall, it went really well. I have found that including him in the tasks I'm doing rather than trying to get him to go do his own thing has really helped his mood, and I love that he's learning something in the process. It also keeps me from making ridiculous comments out of frustration:)

Tuesday, July 27, 2010

Two Roads

I was watching an episode of "Who's the Boss?" (remember, old 80's/90's sitcom?) while crocheting last night (yes, I am that big of a dork) and it actually got me thinking about how one choice in life can completely change our path in such amazing and surprising ways.

The turning point, the tipping point, a fork in the road, stuck between a rock and a hard place, crisis, an ethical dilemma. We all have them. But, have you ever really stopped to think about those choices and all they lead to?

Movies like the Butterfly Effect and The Family Man have been made to explore the notion of how looking at the past and making changes would affect the present and/or future. Robert Frost's famous poem, The Road Not Taken, really addresses that key moment when you make the decision of which path to follow. I read a sci-fi short story once about a man who returned to prehistoric times in a time machine, but he stepped off the path and crushed one bug and it totally altered the course of the future for all life on earth. (Of course, this did require some willing suspension of disbelief as to how the time machine itself landing would not have altered the course...)

My point is, I think it's important/fascinating/overwhelming to think about all of the decisions we make in life and where they lead us. From the mundane decisions of taking a trip somewhere or what restaurant to eat at to the important decisions of where to live, what job to take, what major to pursue, etc. And, not only are we making decisions for ourselves, but for many of us, for our children. Freaking out during a storm could create in them a lifelong fear and introducing them to healthy foods may alter the course of their health as an adult.

And the most scary part of all--SO many times, we can't even predict the outcome of our decisions! I mean, I know that if I choose to take a nap instead of cleaning the house, the house remains dirty. Simple. But, what happens when it's not so cut and dried? What happens, for example, when choice #1 leads to A, B and sometimes C and choice #2 leads to C, D and sometimes B...I mean, this is a convuluded mess! How are we supposed to have enough foresight to make the right call? How do we not become so overwhelmed that we're actually incapable of making decisions? And, maybe more importantly, how control freaks like myself supposed to keep from hyperventilating with the weight of it all?

Thank goodness we have an omniscient, omni-benevolent being to share the load. And, if we're truly as trusting as we should be, to carry the entire weight. I have a hard time believing that God has chosen each of our decisions for us--where is the free will in that? (And, I don't know about you, but I rarely hear the voice of God when I'm debating over what to wear in the mornings.) But, I do believe he has an ideal path for our lives. I see it sort of like bumper bowling. He provides the bumpers for our life, and with prayer and an open mind and heart, we can do our best to stay in our lane. And, in staying relatively true to this pre-determined path, hopefully we can trust God and ourselves to keep moving. Now, if I could just decide what to have for lunch...

Monday, July 26, 2010

Already lagging behind...

Ok. I know. I said I was going to keep up my end of the bargain and I've already fallen off the wagon. But, I'm back on, I swear...maybe there's some sort of Bloggers Anonymous that I can go to for some accountability...but, I digress.

I thought one of the first things I should do was to explain the title for my blog which comes from a great song by one of my very favorite singer/songwriters--Bob Dylan.

May God bless and keep you always
May your wishes all come true
May you always do for others
And let others do for you
May you build a ladder to the stars
And climb on every rung
May you stay forever young

May you grow up to be righteous
May you grow up to be true
May you always know the truth
And see the lights surrounding you
May you always be courageous
Stand upright and be strong
May you stay forever young

May your hands always be busy
May your feet always be swift
May you have a strong foundation
When the winds of change shift
May your heart always be joyful
May your song always be sung
May you stay forever young

I chose this title because I think it's a pretty comprehensive view of what I think life is all about. I certainly fall short at times, but this is what I try to live and what I hope to give to Wardie as he grows older. I'm sure we'll have our share of trials and tribulations with him, but if we can instill these basic values, I think he'll turn out ok:)